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Episode 18

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24th Oct 2025

18: How to Choose the Right Dog for Your Lifestyle (and Avoid Heartbreaking Mistakes)

In this episode of Tails and Tones, host Mariska Nell unpacks what you should really be looking for when choosing a dog — beyond just the cutest breed on Instagram. From energy levels and lifestyle fit to financial readiness and long-term commitment, Mariska shares practical tips (and personal lessons from life with her Frenchie, Piper 🐶) to help you find your perfect canine match.

She also explores dog breed tendencies using insights from Kim Brophey’s book Meet Your Dog, breaking down 10 canine categories to understand how instincts and personalities shape compatibility. Whether you’re adopting, shopping, or still dreaming about your future pup, this episode will help you choose with both your head and heart.

Takeaways:

  • Match first, breed second: A great fit reduces frustration, behavior issues, and rehoming risk.
  • Know your energy + time: High-drive dogs need work, purpose, and movement. Low-key households should choose accordingly.
  • Budget honestly: Some breeds can be costly; plan for vet care, training, nutrition, and insurance.
  • Life changes matter: Think travel, kids, moves, retirement—pick a dog you can support through seasons.
  • Tendencies ≠ destiny: Even within a breed, personalities vary. Respect the individual in front of you.
  • Use categories as a compass: Brophey’s groupings (e.g., sighthounds, guardians, toys, herders, bulldogs, terriers, gundogs, scent hounds, “natural,” and “world dogs”) help you predict instincts and needs.


Relevant links mentioned in the episode:

Meet your Dog Book by Kim Brophey

Episode 11: Adopt or Shop

Where Tails Meet Heart Stories

Paw-Lebrities

Timestamps to relevant points within the episode:

[00:00]- Intro

[01:11]- Welcome + adopt vs. shop (see Ep 11)

[03:10]- Rescue vs reputable breeder: what matching can look like

[04:40]- When the match is right: joy, ease, fewer issues

[05:20]- When it’s wrong: unmet needs, guilt, burnout, rehoming risk

[06:50]- Piper’s story: making a non-obvious fit work (stroller runs!)

[09:46]- The money talk: planning realistically for care

[10:50]- Thinking long-term: lifespan and life changes

[14:08]- Breed tendencies 101 + Kim Brophey’s categories overview

[27:45]- Community segments: Where Tails Meet Hearts & Paw-lebrity

[32:52]- Final message: partnership over perfection

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Tails and Tones
Helpful tips, heartwarming tails, and honest reviews for the busy pet parent.
Helpful tips, heart-warming tales, and honest reviews for the busy dog parent — with our first product launching in Q1 2026! (Elevated food and water station)

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After struggling to find sustainable, well-designed options for her own pup—and digging deep into the pet industry during her Master’s in Sustainable Design—Mariska realized she was searching for products that simply didn’t exist.



She realized that if these products didn’t exist yet, maybe it was her turn to help bring them to life.



That mission sparked both the upcoming product line and the creation of Tails & Tones.



Being a dog mom is the best—but let’s be real, it can also be confusing, messy, and a little lonely sometimes. That’s why the podcast was born: a warm, practical corner of the internet for intentional, busy dog parents.



Every Friday, host Mariska (fellow dog parent, dog-obsessed human, and sustainability-driven designer) delivers short, soulful episodes filled with dog-care tips, honest product reviews, inspiring stories, and real-life advice you can actually use.



And now the next chapter begins:
Our very first Tails & Tones product launches in early 2026! Thoughtfully designed, sustainability-led, and made for modern dog parents like you.
Alongside the elevated food & water station, we currently have three additional products in R&D, all created with the same intentional, sustainable approach.
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We are also developing our second product an indoor potty station. If you’ve struggled with leaky pads, smelly fake grass, or 3AM elevator trips in pajamas, this is the solution you’re going to want early access to. Join the waitlist for our game-changing indoor potty station./

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Mariska Nell

Mariska Nell is a podcast host, pet advocate, sustainability expert, and proud dog mom to her rescue French Bulldog, Piper—also known as the real boss of the house. With a background in design and environmental science, and a Master’s in Sustainable Design focused on the pet industry, Mariska brings heart, humor, and purpose to everything she creates.

She’s the founder and host of Tails and Tones, a soulful podcast for intentional pet parents, where she shares insights, stories, and reviews that help make pet care a little easier and a lot more joyful. She also hosts Mama Earth Talk, where she dives into sustainability topics with changemakers from around the world.

Whether she’s recording episodes, consulting on pet-focused sustainability projects, or out on a walk with Piper, Mariska is passionate about creating a better world—for pets, their people, and the planet.